Webster defines Self Discovery as the act or process of achieving self-knowledge. Further, he defines Self Help as the action or process of bettering oneself or overcoming one’s problems. Both are all about changing oneself. It’s all about finding ways to change your life. I love this quote by George Carlin: “I went to the bookstore and asked the salesperson, ‘Where’s the self-help section?’ She said if she told me, it would defeat the purpose.” It’s true we do have to find our road to self-discovery, and it happens in several ways. It happens when we experience nagging thoughts in our mind that life could be different. Finding your road is usually preceded by a period of unease. This meddlesome discomfort often proceeds the discovery of your road to change. We’ll take a look here at five roads that lead to self-discovery. They all begin when you experience a turning point. This is a point where you realize you can change your life; the point at which you choose a new road. You want to change where you are so you look at a road map and you find there are several roads that lead to your destination. Now you have to choose the best route; what road will you choose? Most likely you will choose your road based on how you arrived at the moment of knowing you wanted to change your life, to go in another direction. The event might be:
1. A dramatic moment when you experience absolute clarity and direction. A pivotal point, an epiphany or an “AHA” moment. This is when realization impacts your consciousness. You know your life must change. It’s crystal clear, and from that point on you see the road to a new life and your life is never, ever the same.
2. It might be a point, reached by many addicts and alcoholics, when you feel you can no longer handle life. This is often referred to as bottoming out. You simply give up and reach out for help. You choose the road to recovery asking for help from others. You find a group of peers where there is a coming together for common mutual assistance.
3. Perhaps you are experiencing un-rest or dis-ease and you’re seeking the help of a therapeutic or spiritual help group. You choose a road to travel with other souls who share your concerns and are of a like mind. If you open up to the nudging of your subconscious mind you’ll discover the right road.
4. Because of a gnawing need to learn and discover, you might choose the road of research and education. You may take classes, get a degree, read books, view videos and take seminars, learn meditation. All of the roads you may choose are chosen in the name of self-discovery.
5. You may unexpectedly find the road to a higher power. Perhaps you find a place, a person, a thing or a group that you can believe in. In other words, you come to believe. The important point is knowing you can find help and change your life. As you begin to apply all you’ve learned from your journey, you can live the life you have always dreamed of living. We really can live extraordinary lives. You just have to find your own road, travel it and see where it leads. Once the road opens you must take action. You must move yourself to travel the road. Albert Einstein said: “Nothing happens until something moves.” A healthy spirit of self-discovery raises people from despair. It advances you in intelligence, virtue, and spiritual growth. Four things you need to do as you set out on the road to self-discovery:
1. Forgive yourself
2. Forgive others
3. Accept yourself
4. Accept others
Samuel Smiles: “The spirit of self-help is the root of all genuine growth in the individual.” Whichever road you choose, consider what it will do for you. Your journey should:
1. Not harm you, but rather benefit you
2. Improve your attitude
3. Positively change your behavior
4. Improve your environment
5. Re-educate your subconscious
6. Enlighten your consciousness
7. Include self forgiveness and forgiveness of others
8. Bring about self-acceptance
9. Improve your self esteem
John Wooden: “Remember this, the choices you make in life, make you.” Travel your road with enthusiasm and apply what you learn. Make the trip about discovering the life you’ve always dreamed of living. Too often we look at the road but do not start the journey. Too often we limit ourselves. How sad, when we could learn to live extraordinary lives. You can be happier, healthier, and more prosperous. Find your road(s) to discovery of self. THEN GO FOR IT.
C.R. Law: “Unless you try to do something beyond what you have mastered, you will never grow.”
By Wee Dilts
- 5 Ways to Your Best Year: Learn to Forgive (essence.com)
- Choosing to Live (sjohart.wordpress.com)
- Confront the Past + Embrace Forgiveness (valeriemorini.wordpress.com)
- Finding God: What is Faith? (dwomoh.wordpress.com)